The other night, as part of San Mateo County's "Schools Committee" for my alma mater, I co-orchestrated (with 3 fellow alums) a 2 hour interviewing frenzy in which 55 alumni ranging in class year from '09 back to '61 (and maybe further?) interviewed 67 high school seniors, interested in attending Harvard next fall.
A few observations about interviewing for college, which can also apply to interviewing for a job, establishing a business partnership and even going on a date with a romantic interest or possible future BFF:
1. "Being yourself" isn't enough. The chatty mom of one of the students was sharing how she told her daughter "just be yourself," adding that you can't study for an interview–and while that statement seems like an obvious fact, it didn't quite resonate. I would alter that statement to say "Just be your BEST self". What I mean is, don't try to be someone else, but try to put your best foot forward. Dress appropriate ly. Show that you thought about the interview before you arrived. Arrive on time, if not early. Bring a pencil. For goodness sake, bring a pencil.
2. Put yourself in the other guy's shoes. It is human nature to be optimistic when meeting someone new. Interviews are the extreme of this fact. We want to be wowed by the person across the table. We are not trying to trick you. If we ask you what you are interested in, expect that we will follow up on that subject–and be prepared. And make us feel good about being there too–at least make us feel like we are helping someone who appreciates our effort.
3. A little nervous energy is good–more is not, and is not needed. Remember–interviewers and interviewees alike are people. Most of us have many opportunities to be on both sides of the table over our lives. Try to connect with the human being across the table–learn about them, find common ground, and try to find a little joy in the moment. It will help you relax, and make the meeting more inspiring for both sides.
